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Friday, August 06, 2004

Guess I’ve created a small havoc on my topic of “zhao sai”. Thank you for all your comments, so now we know the different views between girls n guys yah.. *hehe*

I was having dinner with Hui and Linda yesterday and we came across a discussion on *Quantity* or *Quality* time.. Therefore, this shall be a topic to ponder about on a lazy Friday.

Quantity Time~
I’ve been in a few relationships before and I’ve came across a trend which not only applies on me, but on other couples as well. During the first few months in a courtship, couples will tend to be very “sticky”. They will spend most of their free time together as a couple, even when they had no plans, notink to do, rotting at home, etc.. The most important mindset in couples at this stage of dating is that they will be very happy enough to spend time together, to see each other’s face. This is wat I call quantity time.

But after a period of maybe a year or so.. They tend to be bored of each other and may tink that it might be even better to hang out with frenz rather then spending so much time doing notink.. They will soon get bored and starts to drift apart.. This is the time when communication starts to breaks downs and arguments arose.. So in the end couples break up..

Quality Time~
Spending time with each other doesn’t mean that you need to see your partner 24/7. Remember, you have frenz and your own life apart from your partner. This is when time management comes along. Planning is very important, be it in school, at work or even dating. Spending time doing notink is bored man.. So always plan wat to do b4 u guys go “pak tall”.. Apart from weekly routines like shopping, watching movies or rotting at home, do sumtink meaningful like cleaning the house together, cooking a storm for dinner, fixing a puzzle, etc. You can oso consider sumtink adventurous like canoeing, extreme sports or even backpacking! This way, you can have not only have quality time but also will get to know your partner better. Last but not least, never forget to spend time with your frenz too.. *^_^*

Poisonivy on 8/06/2004 10:25:00 AM

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