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Tuesday, August 03, 2004

A friend & I were debating on a topic on "zhao sei".. Tink I'm gonna use this for today's story..

For friends whom are attached and were around my age, their partners were either in NS or they themsleves are currently serving the nation. I would say tinks are really shaky at this stage of their courship. I have heard countless of GFs ditching their beau for another guy.. All guys seems to have this FEAR in them & are so afraid that their GFs will do the same tink to them.

Guys in NS tends to be less confident, more sensitive and very protective against themselves and their surroundings. Girls on the other hand, became more confident and full of live as they had come to a stage whereby they will be exposed to a more "open" surrounding as a working adults. They will meet different from all walks of life n tends to dream of being like them. I'm having this vision in my mind as well.. This is wat I call +time gap+ in a relationship.. There bound to be alot of conflicts and eventually both decided that this is not wat they are looking for in a relationship n breaks up. Let me give u 2 scenarios:

1. Girl ditch guy = Zhao Sei
A friend of mine (X) broke up with her BF of 5years while he was serving the nation. Her reason was that she had found a better guy. What I mean better is that this guy is more mature and had a stable job n income. She had no confident to wait for her BF as she tinks that they're too young to have a future together. After all, her BF will be doing his degree after NS. By the time he had settled down with a job, she will already be in her late 20s.

I thaw it's rather selfish of her to only tink abt herself. But changed my view when this situation happened to another friend..

2. Guy ditch girl = ?!?!?!
My childhood friend (Y) had been with her BF for 6years and had brave through tough time with him in his army life. She stayed as a good GF, did the best she could to support him. But recently, the guy ditched her for a younger girl whom he met during his uni orientation camp. He had forgotten all his promises to her and had made her wait for a cruel ending that came so late.

Y was lucky as she's only 21 years old and still can jolly well achieve a better future w/o this guy. But I can't imagine how will X cope if this tink happened in
scenario1. I can't help but had to agree with X's opinion. It might be selfish of her to only tink abt herself but nobody can predict the future, you will never know if your beau will ditch you for a younger girl when he stepped into the working life. I would call this *先下手为强*

I believe there won't be any "Guarantee" in a relationship until the day when Govt issue a "Warranty Certificate" on your wedding.. Just my 2 cents worth of thoughts.. :)

Poisonivy on 8/03/2004 01:07:00 PM

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